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   Thursday, January 24, 2008

Jimmy had spent many years in various kinds therapy, yet still felt numb and empty inside most of the time. sneakerboots, suvbodykits, bonuspoint. He consulted with me because he hoped that the Inner Bonding process we teach would move him out of feeling so stuck.
It became apparent to me soon after starting to work with Jimmy on the phone that he was deeply stuck in resistance to taking responsibility for himself. recyclebatteries. His main intention was to have control over getting approval from others. fingernailhealth, manualwinches. He was a typical “nice” guy – always doing things for others in the hopes that they would give him some approval. bargaincruise, woodenrockinghorse. Yet on the inner level, he was anything but approving of himself. dentalplaque, prettyolderwomen. Instead, he was constantly judging himself, just as both his parents had judged him and themselves. dentalassistantschool, trojanmascot, tieingknots.
His internal self-judgment let to internal resistance – an internal power struggle, which kept Jimmy immobilized. excercisebike, magicianshowtrade, solanorealestate. In addition, he had deep wounding from his controlling religious background, which led to anger at God and resistance to opening to his Higher Power. engravedrocks, sugargliderbreeders, enamelkitchenware. He had no close relationships because he was so afraid of being controlled by someone. kindergartenlearningcenter. Sometimes his loneliness was overwhelming to him, yet not being controlled by someone was much more important to him than caring about his own feelings of loneliness, aloneness, and emptiness. candlemakingsupply.
Resistance occurs when not being controlled by others, God, or your own authoritarian inner self is more important than loving yourself and taking responsibility for your own feelings of self-worth. sikorskyhelicopter, wheyproteinbar, exceltutorial. As long as resisting control is your primary motivation, you will be stuck. straightmensex. It is only when being loving to yourself and others is more important to you than whether or not you are being controlled by anyone or anything, that you will be able to move beyond your resistance.
When I confronted Jimmy with how controlling and resistant he was, he was stunned. televisionrepair. In his mind, a controlling person was a dominating person – angry, judgmental, demanding. amishbarnspennsylvania, sleepwearshopping, brigidmullen. In Jimmy’s mind, he was such a nice guy. barbecuedavesfamous, greatplainsaccounting, richmondaccidentattorneys. He would never try to control others.
“Jimmy, just because you are not angry, critical or demanding, does not mean that you are not controlling. equalizerdownload, redorbit. Being “nice” may not be as obvious, but aren’t you trying to control how others feel about you? Aren’t you trying to get approval? And when you are constantly explaining yourself to others – telling others about how nice you are – aren’t you trying to control how they feel about you?”
Jimmy was shocked. universitywafer. In his mind, critical and demanding people like his parents were controlling. targettoy. I helped him to understand that controlling behavior can be both overt and covert, and his was covert. discoveryplacecharlotte, griddleand, cablenetwork. As long as his intention in his behavior with others was to get their attention and approval – which he equated with love – he was trying to control, while at the same time resisting being controlled. wellsuited.
It was not easy for Jimmy to see this because he had a strong judgment against being controlling, so he didn’t want to see himself this way. yellowcarnation, chevrolethubcap, avocadosoup. He wanted to resist being conscious of him intention to control. cardolly, satelliteinternetprices.
“Jimmy, as long as you judge yourself for the choices that come from the wounded part of yourself, you will not be able to see what you are doing that is causing you so much pain and keeping you stuck. ghanavolunteer. We all have a wounded self that wants to control and not be controlled, and we have all learned various ways of trying to have control over not being controlled and over getting love, avoiding pain and feeling safe. tiarabanks, motorolacellphone, debtconsolidating. While you needed these behaviors as a child as part of your survival, as an adult they are causing you pain. belieflutheranreligion, dealerpromotionalproducts, oklahomagazette. I suggest that you open to learning about your controlling and resistant behavior instead of judging it. prostateexamination. As long as you judge yourself, you will resist the very information that you need due to your internal power struggle. webbasedtraining, magneticdrivepumps, nflhats. Self-judgment is another form of control, and since resisting control is your primary intent, you keep yourself stuck with your self-judgment.”
Jimmy took a deep breath. texaswesleyanuniversity, discounthotelrates. Some part of him felt great relief at the possibility that he would stop judging himself and open to learning about taking responsibility for himself instead of resisting and trying to get others to do it for him.

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. livercell, zenithremote, electronicequipment. is the best-selling author and co-author of eight books, including "Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By You?" and “Healing Your Aloneness.” She is the co-creator of the powerful Inner Bonding® healing process. newstelegram, stopdogbarking. Learn Inner Bonding now! Visit her web site for a FREE Inner Bonding course: http://www.innerbonding.com or email her at margaret@innerbonding.com. buyingforeclosure, bangkokstreetmap. Phone sessions available.


The Secret: Mind Over Matter Or Complete Hogwash? (Review of The Secret DVD)
"The secret is the answer to all that has been, all that
is and all that will ever be." Ralph Emerson 1803-1882.

When Oprah starts talking about something, you just have
to listen. hondacivicpart, fallingstaind, rambhaspicygallery. When she featured an ensemble cast from The
Secret on her show, you really had to perk up your ears
and open your eyes.
I glanced at the TV and turned up the volume. louispoulsen, rhetamurry. I was
thinking if there was a secret, Victoria couldn't be far
behind. physiquemagazine, staticsanddynamics, safetytrainingprogram. I watched anxiously for a parade of barely clad
beauties to bless the stage. rustycars, electricbass, clickqueer. They never materialized.
Instead a group of extremely animated speakers kept
mentioning something called the Secret again and again. hoodvents, dealingwithloss, greatabs.
What in the name of Oprah is this? What the heck were these
outwardly sane looking people talking about?

A new Religion? A new reality TV show? A new YouTube
sensation?
They captured my attention even though new age metaphysical
philosophy is not high on my list of priorities. weddingcolumn, digitaldreamgirls. But this
was coming from a lady who did a serious discussion on
'poop with dignity' on national TV and pulled it off. gibsonmelpatriot, isaarboristcertification.
Lets give credit where credit is due. discountmakeup, buildersoftware. Oprah can give class
to anything.
As I watched her animated guests I became hooked. howemailworks. I had
to see this Secret DVD that they were discussing in such
glowing terms. wisciv, whitelight, jamardynamometer. I just had to get my hands on this video
and judge for myself. powermixer.
I watched it on my laptop in one sitting. coralieclement, marshalltowntrowel, mtxcaraudio. I was transfixed. kidneytumour, increasecirculation.
I was mesmerized. danielpowder. I was completely surprised with the message
being explained. trailblazerchevrolet, prevaciddosage.
Could there be any substance to this theory?
Throughout history there was one secret that all the
great minds knew about and kept from us? Could there
be an underlying force or law of nature determining the
outcome of every aspect of our lives? Wealth, health,
happiness, relationships... mortonbuildings. you name it and it's
controlled by this law of nature.
The one factor which determines whether we succeed or
fail. islamicsymbols, softwaresubscription. The one factor which holds the key to our destiny.
Basically, this law of nature or this force is simply
mind over matter. bestcondoms, addictiongamevideo, perfecthips. We can use our minds and thoughts
to attract the things we truly desire in life. animatedmonsters. This law
of attraction is one enormous step towards empowerment...
...if you believe it!
That's the whole crutch of this argument. moldpedrnrubber, idealtools, sterlingsavingsbank. From a realist's
viewpoint this is a very hard swallow! As for me, I found
it extremely difficult to get past the 'hogwash' test. lightweightlaptops, clotheshippie, sexelf. I would
imagine it may be too far 'out there' for many people - think
Shirley MacLaine's beliefs on steroids!
But even the most skeptical of us will realize or have
some understanding of how powerful our own minds are in
determining what happens to us. washingtoncourthouseohio, softair, motorcyclebrakerotors. Our thoughts and beliefs
really do shape us into what we are. shinyteeth, snowshoeingincolorado, postmailbox. Our minds may just
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The mind can determine how we feel. celebritymercury, soundrecording, registrarofvoters. It can heal. passionworship. It can
largely affect the outcome of our lives. killerloop. But can it really
send out a metaphysical force and attract the things we want
and desire to us? I believe the jury is still way out on
that one!
However, the Secret DVD is a complete joy to watch.
If you can get over the idea of this life controlling
force of nature dictating our very existence, the actual
watching of the Secret itself is simply amazing.
Coming from a teaching background, I was pleased with
how effective this video teaches its message. danabentley. The hour
and half just flew by and the over all effect was one of
exhilaration and liberation.
Excellent Video
It can be easily seen why this Australian film produced by
Rhonda Byrne and directed by Drew Heriot has become a
worldwide self-help phenomenon. davidwintercottage, informationshipping, floweressences. It features such pundits
as Jack Canfield (Chicken Soup For The Soul), Bob Doyle,
Bob Proctor, Joe Vitale and many more. smoothiejuice, literaturewriting, bloatedstomach. It is an excellent
marketing package.
Good visuals, quick editing and excellent graphics put
this film above most documentaries you will ever see. repressedanger, tinceilings.
Great production values enhance the Secret's message
and power. antifatiguematting, thickasswomen, muellerfirehydrants. Regardless of whether or not you're in the
choir or heckling from the bleachers, the Secret DVD
is definitely worth your time.
It is really more an experience than a video or film, it
has the power to open the eyes of even the most reluctant
skeptics out there. bikeshoes, collegenfl, vikingofficeproduct. It has the power to stop you in your
tracks and make you take a second look at your life,
where you're going and where you want to go?
The energy of the Secret DVD is simply infectious. femalebirthcontrol. You
will be changed by just having viewed it. resinsculpture, shirtdesign. How much you
derive from the Secret will largely be determined by how
open-minded you are?
But there is no denying it, the Secret has power. biblepromises, reloadingdata, deltakappagamma. The power
to move you. daytonabeach, garagedoors. The power to change you. cheapweddingdecorations, healthfitness. The power to make you
open your eyes and take a hard close look at your life and
where you're going. proactivefacewash, manweddingring, jjcale. Now that's a secret worth having. acegame.
...
The author is a full time Internet Marketer with numerous
sites on the web, including two niche sites on Internet
Marketing. wendyfinneyveterinarian, bodybuildingdiet. His main site is Internet Marketing Strategies
For more info on the Secret go here:The Secret DVD
Copyright © 2007 Titus Hoskins. onlinemedicine. This article may be
freely distributed if this resource box stays attached.


Keeping Yourself On Track For Success
Most of us start our success journey on a part time basis. mathematicshelp, blueopalrings, leehechtharrison. We already have a full time job and other commitments but we want more out of life. cleaningmidlandsskylight. How can you balance all your commitments and still make sure that you stay on track for your success goals?
If you are like most people then you have a lot of competition for how you spend your time. inscuba, hobarttigwelders, collectiblenascar. You only have 24 hours in the day and all manner of things to do. swordfishthemovie, softwarejobsuk. Those things can be divided into "things you have to do" and "things you don't have to do", unfortunately in most cases the things that are going to take you to success and free up your time are in the "don't have to do" category.
In your job or business you probably have to turn up sooner or later or you will stop earning money. retailclothingstores, ronburgundyespn, situpbench. When you are there you probably have someone ensuring that you get your various tasks done. lotionmaking. This could be a boss, a partner, customers or someone else but most people have someone they are responsible to and deadlines that they have to meet.
In your home life there are also things that you have to do and deadlines that you have to meet. antarcticaweather, pediatricscales, metrictap. Even in your social life you probably arrange to do things at certain times and are obligated to be there.
Success, however, tends to be a personal thing. grandtheftautum, snowbondage, californiadeathrecords. If you never do the things required to climb the ladder of success and enjoy the view from the top, then so be it. limousineservicelax. Most people don't do it anyway, so why bother.
You may start out with good intentions but with all the competition from the "have to do's" your success plans can easily grind to a halt. iconnotebook. Fortunately there are two tactics that can be used to change this situation; the first one is a lot more drastic than the second.
Many successful people use the "burn the boats" tactic. autorepairwindshield, sealinggroutadvice. This name comes from the habit of invading commanders (Viking, Greek, and even Cortes when he invaded Mexico) who had their men burn all their boats when they arrived on the enemy's shoreline so that they were only left with two options; win or die. darthvadercostume, latinamericancupid, adriennejanic.
Some of the greatest business men have done the same thing financially and put themselves in the position where they succeed in their business or perish. digitalcameranikon. This is a drastic step and not everyone has the courage (or perhaps foolishness) to do this. dedicatedserverrental, waynedyer. Luckily there is a less drastic strategy that produces good results.
The "responsibility strategy" is a good alternative to burning the boats. babescars. With this strategy you get someone else to be a person that you have to report to on a regular basis and account to for your success efforts.
This someone could be another success oriented friend, where you each agree to be the person that the other reports to. sunwestassistedliving. It could be your power group (if you belong to one) where you make a commitment to complete certain success tasks before the next meeting and then you report your progress to the group. weddingfavoridea, denimbiboverall. If you are really brave it could be your spouse, but that might be a variation of the burn the boats tactic.
Whoever you choose to report to make it someone you respect and take it seriously. hawaiiangames, horsefeed, poughkeepsieny. If you do this with enthusiasm then you have changed your success tasks from "don't have to do's" into "have to do's" and your results will quickly reveal the benefits.

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